See Me...Through Two Relationships

It has been more than a month since I last posted and believe me, you have not let me slide.  I've heard from my friends and friends of friends have said it has been too long.  My post hasn't been delayed because I had forgotten or was being lazy.  It was because I found myself torn on what to write.  However, much encouragement from my friends and several messages I've listened to have help me to guide my thoughts and post a message that I hope will be encouraging to someone.


Those closest to me know that for years I haven't had the best relationship with my dad.  For various reasons, our relationship suffered to achieve the closeness we once had when I was younger. This lack of closeness never caused me to love him any less or disrespect him.  He is my father and regardless of what roadblocks and struggles were placed in our path, I love and respect him.  Eventually, I came to a place in my life where I asked God to fix me and my heart, if the relationship couldn't be mended.  God did just that!!


Last month, I went down to my paternal grandparent's town for the family reunion and on my way back home I stopped to see my dad.  While visiting my dad, he asked me how I felt about our relationship. Even though we had these conversations before, I just felt something was different this time. After I expressed how I felt, a part of me wasn't sure if the conversation would turn out differently.


A week later I received a phone call from my aunt that my dad was being rushed to the hospital and later she called to let me know they were performing emergency surgery.  My dad has had several surgeries in the past, which I would pray for him but due to our relationship, I wouldn't go home. This time felt differently. This time I decided to go home.


In less than 24 hours my dad had to have two emergency surgeries and before he went into the second surgery, I was able to pray for him. It was during this prayer that I felt God begin to restore. A week after his surgery, he went home and I went back to stay with him for a night and we enjoyed time watching television together and talking.


Meanwhile, as God was restoring this relationship, he was guiding me to end ties with a male relationship/friendship that wasn't benefiting me. It was going nowhere and he wasn't growing, so I decided to remove him from my phone and free myself to be open to what God truly has for me in WHOLE relationships.


I shared this moment in my life in hopes that whoever reads this post will find peace in relationships that God wants to restore and those he wants to end. 


I was listening to a message titled, 'Live on Purpose' by T.D. Jakes.  In the message he states don't waste time into putting your efforts and energy into things that aren't escalating your destiny. No need investing all your energy into people or things that aren't a part of your purpose.


So, I decided to sever the ties to a purposeless relationship and put my efforts and energy into mending a purposeful relationship. Malachi 4:6, "And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers..."